Add to this an interesting new tidbit: there is a new boy. I'm pretty sure I like him, even though it is very early on. And... he is 3 years younger than me. :-O This is a WAY new position for me to be in. I have never ever dated, or even liked, a guy that was any more than 6 months younger than me. I've always been attracted to older men. My ex, for example, was 4 1/2 years older than me (only two months younger than my sister, which was always weird). However, I was definitely the adult in that relationship. He often acted like a teenager. So, I feel like that could mean a couple of things with this new guy (we'll call him "Musician"): he could be similarly immature, and act like he's 16. Or, he could be a very mature guy, and the age difference could turn out to be not that big of a deal at all. Hopefully it's the latter!
One of my good friends told me an encouraging story about someone she knows who decided to give a younger guy a chance, and they have turned out perfectly happy together and will be marrying soon. I just have no experience in this area, though. I've considered dating guys that are as much as 7 or 8 years older than me, but younger than me just didn't really cross my mind until I met Musician (explanation for that: he is very cute, friendly, I've heard great things about him from a friend who knows him, and most importantly he is absolutely in love with the Lord).
What do you all think out there? Is it worth considering? Should I not even be concerned about the age?
Age. I have been trying to wrap my mind around it lately. I don't know if it's a Christian thing, or just my family, but even though I never put much pressure on myself to find a guy before 25, they sure seem to think I'm slacking.
ReplyDeleteThe new boy sounds interesting, I think there are too many variables to make a definitive statement. But I dated a guy who was less than a year younger and his immaturity (as a Christian and in general) could be called the main reason for our eventual breakup.
I guess, I would say that you should already have a good grasp on his maturity level, so if he seems too immature for you, I doubt that will change. However, a lot of maturity happens right after college, so that could be a factor. And he is well-supported by your friends, that's a pretty good thing. :)
I just realized I probably didn't help at all - ignore any and all of these comments if they do nothing but confuse!
Haha, no that's okay! I honestly don't know him that well yet, so my concern is based solely on the number at this point. I guess I'll just have to wait and see on his maturity level. I always tend to assume that guys' maturity is directly related to their age, but more often than not that appears to not be the case. haha
ReplyDeleteThanks for your feedback!!